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Monday, March 8, 2021

Girthiness, Celibacy Breakage

Dear Sillies,

Alright, alright, I won't be such a tease. Well, I will, but I'll try to not keep you hanging for too long...It's not nice. Guys don't like that. You don't either, and that's why I love ya. 

Part 2.
"No need to apologize, I had fun," I told Huey. 
"Cool well if your ever up for hanging out I'm down."

   Despite his grammatical challenges, and a significant size differential between us, I liked Huey's genuinely sweet demeanor. So we hung out. Err, he hung out and got me up and down and sideways and backwards and all around. He's strong and flexible that way. 

  I gotta say, though, I had severe performance anxiety every time. Huey is a man of girth - you know what I mean? (Psst: It's not Jewish.) I was astounded by the sight. We worked it out, though, and I survived unscathed.

   Huey and I took walks and went to shows and stuff too, but you don't care about that. (That's another reason I love you. You cheer when I get some).

   A few months into our courtship, I was certain that Huey's funny. I appreciated his sweetness. He's sincere and warmloving too. And Huey's honest. So honest that he told me he doesn't want to hurt me. Thus, to preempt this, Huey told me that we should have an open relationship.

   "I don't feel like you're the one, and I'm not breaking up with you, but if you're open to dating other people...?"

   I thought about it. No, I didn't really think about it. "No. That won't work for me, Huey." Damn tears. 

   Huey and I are still friendly and cordial. I was hurt and sad, of course. But there was no malice. That's relieving.  

   And honestly, between you and me, my Sillies, it's a relief to not feel the pressures of having so much to take in. You know?

   

30 comments:

  1. Hmmm. He tried monogamy on for size and the pants split. He couldn't button the jacket. Disappointing.

    Love,
    Janie

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  2. Being able to end a relationship and remain friendly is a huge plus. And rare too.

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    1. It is, EC. It's a first for me, though it's not a "friendship" anymore, more a caring connection. Still, a first for me. Thank you.

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  3. Ha, no happy ending! Apart from... erm... well, you know...

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    1. Right. He needs to give himself the happy endings now.
      Thanks, Annalisa.

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  4. Really sorry it didn't work out.
    The let's just be friends part is usually what a guy hears though, not the other way around.

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    1. I know, Alex. Weirdly, I've been hearing more of that these days. When women say it, it's because we're not attracted. When men say it, it's because they're scared. Sigh.

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  5. well darn. A brief friends with benefits. Now friends- ish. Oh Robyn. (as always - funny writing - you are too good)

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    1. Thank you, Joanne. Your friendship helps keep me going.

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  6. I am sorry it didn't work out and wish you well in the future. Maybe, one day. That said, your innuendos are classic.

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    1. I appreciate it, Jeff. Glad you appreciate my innuendos. =)

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  7. Sounds like it was fun while it lasted, and that's the main thing, isn't it!

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  8. Think of it as a big, hot lovin’ fun time. He was never the one for you because of the time you saw him backstage and what he liked to do...drugs. He is for the stage life and that’s it. So you had a good time, found new ways to do the tango and enjoyed it despite his girth. Stand tall, you are amazing and you know what you want and don’t want.

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    1. You're so sweet and wise, Birgit. Thank you for all that. Yeah, it's not just drugs - a very unhealthy lifestyle, and I'm glad to be detached from it/him.
      Love ya.

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  9. At least you got to enjoy for a little bit.

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  10. Leave it to men to want to be the booty call.

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    1. I know, right? As if the women are lined up at their doors. Oy vey.
      =)

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  11. Well at least there was some fun before he wanted to have fun with you and others.

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    1. True, Pat. And he's a nice one. And I don't have too much to take in - if you know what I mean.
      Thanks!

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  12. This is my first time here and without knowing you, I can honestly say that the loss is entirely his. At least he was honest about how he felt. A lot of men would have been a coward and continued to see you without giving you any choice in the matter and they would have done whatever they wanted to do on the side until they found "the one."

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    1. You're sweet, Mildred. Thanks so much.
      By the way, sorry it took me so long to respond. I hadn't been checking this blog post, or my blog, for a bit.
      You're right. Huey's sincere, and that's refreshing.
      Be well.

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  13. Great writing with a not so happy ending. At least you took it well(pun intended??). Warm greetings!

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    1. Thank you kindly, Blogoratti. I appreciate your visit too. Nice to see you here!
      Be well, safe, and grateful.

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  14. So, happy endings at first and throughout but no more? Well that just sucks, Robyn. You're braver than I. I still have not conquered the art of being "just friends" with an ex/former lover. His loss will be someone WONDERFUL's gain!!

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    1. Thanks so much, Yvonne. I haven't conquered it either. And now I get to see him, Yvonne, with his new one - one he's loyal to. Ouch.
      Hugs, girlfriend.

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