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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Happily Ever After, an Alpha-Thursday Post

I didn't participate in this week's Saturday Centus. Sorry, Jenny. Uh, the dog ate my homework? It's shocking. I know. I don't even have a dog. To make it up to you, I've joined the Alpha-Thursday team. I don't think there are any rules (I just kind of snuck in. Shh! Wanna take cuts?), except to post based on the letter of the week. This week, we're onto H. Here's Hoping you like this.

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Happily Ever After


"As wonderful as things are at this moment," Rabbi Wyse promised, "it will get even better, better than you could ever imagine."


Touched by these words, I stood teary-eyed with my new husband, an expansive rainbow colored stained glass window accentuating our loving aura. It was indeed a magical day, and a delectable future beckoned entry.


The months and years to follow, though? Not so much. Okay, when does this happily ever after thing kick in? I wondered, as life plummeted into a miserable abyss. How could a man of the cloth be so off base?


More recently, however, I learned the wisdom behind those words. The Rabbi was right, after all. It would get even better than I ever dreamed it could be. I just didn't realize it would take so long after the marriage, and the divorce, to find my happily ever after.


THE END

42 comments:

  1. Hey, it's true. People have their own unique paths to happiness. Who's to say which way is the right direction. FYI...I have no dog either, but I love kosher dawgs. Ironic. No?

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  2. Kosher dogs are good.

    And I agree with Copyboy.

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  3. Glad you are finally Happily Everafter! No sense in wasting time with Mr. Wrong!~Ames

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  4. Life...who can predict what life will bring. It's what we make of it life that really matters. I came across an wonderfully positive website called Looks Great Naked. It's written by a lady who has had a lot of stuff happen in her life...her husband's affair, his sex addiction and subsequent divorce. The blog is about positive self esteem and the writer's personal humor about her life and personal anecdotes in her life's journey. Her glass is half full!

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  5. this is my 2nd. marrige. my 1st husband died in a car accident. married 18 years, now 13 years with current husband. all of this time wasn't happy, but we work through it. if you are happier now without him good for you. thanks for your comment on my post re decorating. take care rose

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  6. I totally agree with finding our own paths to happiness. The whole happily ever after things is a hoax. You have to seek it. It doesn't just come to you. I'm happy you found your happiness. :0) Good Post

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  7. Wow. That's deep. Thank you for sharing with the rest of us.

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  8. Clever ending. I'd never thought of a rabbi as "a man of the cloth". There ought to be phrase like "man of the cloth" which sounds more Jewish.

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  9. Hi Robin! I am visiting you from alphabet thursday and I am now following your blog. Your little story is so telling, but it is very important I think in life to know that there are no shortcuts. What you went through, made you who you are, and thus able to find your happily ever after! All the best. Alex@amdoeratelife

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  10. I really enjoyed this post & it's great to meet you!

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  11. Hi! Great post, made me laugh out loud :) As a newley wed, married 1.5 years now, I hope that my happily ever after continues for many years. It's great to see strong women (and men) be happy no matter their personal, professional, or financial situation. Cheers

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  12. Married 38 years to the same guy...wow. I'm visiting you from Mrs Matlocks class, glad you could join in.

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  13. I am glad you found your happily ever after.

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  14. We all want to believe in the happy ever afters, but in reality it's a long journey to our very own ‘happy ever after’. We’re all a work-in-progress.
    The best we can do is to live for the moment and find the joy hiding there.

    Here's to happiness within yourself.
    The real 'prince' will walk in the door eventually :)

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  15. As hard as things are some times, I don't think I would ever want a map to happiness, the struggles make it so much better once we find it

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  16. I loved this!! Thank you for sharing. :)

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  17. happy ever after is a state of mind... you may have it but still not be happy...

    thank god for single malt

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  18. Happily ever after comes in a different way to each of us - and sometimes it's hard to recognize it.

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  19. Wait a minute....you were married to a rabbi?!!! I didn't know that?!! (Or am I smoking something strange again?)

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  20. Or wait...re-read it...maybe you were referring to the Rabbi's comment about how things would get better?

    Sheesh - I need some caffeine. Where's my diet pepsi! Oh crap - just remembered...I buy the caffeine free stuff!

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  21. GB, I'm sure there are other terms: Talmudic scholar? Ordained mensch? I haven't been to temple in a while; that's all I've got. xo

    LOL Marlene. Try chocolate, hon. xo

    Wow, thanks for all of your meaningful, supportive responses. You are very wise and sweet. It's great to meet new friends too. I'm going to visit you shortly. xo

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  22. I am glad you found your happily ever after! I'm sorry for what you had to go through to get there, but I'm so glad you're there!

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  23. I love this post Robyn, and it's all true. Wise words.

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  24. Sometimes divorce is the door to freedom and a whole new life! Good for you!

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  25. Robyn, truer words were never spoken! Great H word!! Thanks for the nice comment on my blog!

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  26. Oh, I can totally feel you behind these words. THis is great intriguing stuff Robyn.

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  27. The happiness was in you all along...just obscured for awhile by Mr. Drag's downbeat aura.I'm so glad you set yourself free.

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  28. True sometimes divorce makes you remember what is most important for happiness - yourself...but there are "the best is happening" kind of marriages too....better to be alone than live a lie.... ;)

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  29. I'm about to go crack a beer and find happiness. Hey, I'M EASY.

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  30. The thing is our story isn't over until we're over. But, I'm glad to hear you've found a path that is leading you to your "happily ever after." :-)

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  31. I'm touched by your words. [Well, Heff's are more entertaining than heartwarming.] Thank you all, for your wisdom and kindness. xo

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  32. Does your happily ever after have anything to do with finding my blog? I'm 83% sure that is the case.

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  33. "and a delectable future beckoned 'entry'"

    are you referring to the honeymoon night?

    haha

    ps im sure there's another happy ever after waiting for you..its just not here yet..

    x

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  34. I think when we learn that we are responsible for our own happiness and don't expect someone else to make us happy the battle is won, it is only our Heavenly Father that will never let us down

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  35. Very wise words!! Life is so hard sometimes we have to take our happiness a day at a time!

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  36. You never have to explain anything to me...ever! Come when you can, link when you want to. It's always a pleasure to see you, but never, ever any pressure. To much of that in real life.

    That being said...what a great link to Alphabe-Thursday. I really enjoyed this story...and I can totally relate to it on a real-life level as I'm sure many of us can.

    Thanks for sharing your wonderful writing skills with us here.

    A+

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  37. I'm glad you are living in your happily ever after! If you weren't, I'm pretty certain your blog wouldn't be as good. :)

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  38. PTM, of course. You can add, um, seven. No, seventeen percent to that. xo

    Anthony, well, no. Thank you. xo

    Karen, that's true. We're conditioned to look for someone (outside of ourselves) to fill that void. Thanks. xo

    Gayle, thanks.

    Jenny, thanks so much. You're such a sweet and helpful teacher. I haven't seen an A+ in a long time. It makes me even happier! xo

    Kelley, that seems like the perfect response. I really appreciate it and you. xo

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  39. there is so, so much truth in this.

    you are a wise woman :)
    xo

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  40. Yes, a happily ever after is out there for every one of us; it's a very wise thing to say.

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