me, 7.1.07. photo by Rudi Halbright
For the sake of Gary Pennick's well-being, I'm (re)posting a short one.
To all A-Zers, I hope you get/got a well-deserved rejuvenating break on Sunday.
Have a great week, all!
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Happily Ever After
"As wonderful as things are at this moment," Rabbi Wyse promised, "it will get even better, better than you could ever imagine."
Touched
by these words, I stood teary-eyed with my new husband, an expansive
rainbow colored stained glass window accentuating our loving aura. It
was indeed a magical day, and a delectable future beckoned entry.
The months and years to follow, though? Not so much. Okay, when does this happily ever after thing kick in? I wondered, as life plummeted into a miserable abyss. How could a man of the cloth be so off base?
More
recently, however, I learned the wisdom behind those words. The Rabbi
was right, after all. It would get even better than I ever dreamed it
could be. I just didn't realize it would take so long after the
marriage, and the divorce, to find my happily ever after.
Sounds like she needed to find her own peace first.
ReplyDeleteStill rocking the Challenge. Playing catchup today.
Sometimes the road to enlightenment is long and winding.
ReplyDeleteBetter late than never leaps to mind. And is squashed. Happy ever after needs to start early.
ReplyDeleteI am glad she found it - and sorry it took time.
I'm going through one of those rough patches right now, but we've weathered tough times before and I have every hope that life will get sweet again and we'll experience it together. Thanks for the reminder that sometimes you need to change things up a little to find happiness.
ReplyDeleteThe world is definitely not a static place.
Life seldom turns out as we planned. But it's still an interesting ride.
ReplyDeleteI tell myself that tough times, strong winds only serve to send our roots deeper, making us able to stand taller in the future. Sometimes it even helps! ;-)
ReplyDeleteWorking the night through certainly makes me appreciate this calmer Sunday -- but people need blood even on Sundays! So cross your fingers!
Your snippet was spot-on in its emotional truths. Great job.
Hi human, Robyn,
ReplyDeleteThe irony is that even my human and I who find the A to Z a ridiculous affair that needs to stop, are exhausted by interacting with those who pawticipate. My human's well being is truly grateful for this.
Gary could not pawsibly imagine that things would get better when he discovered his wife was pregnant. Trouble is, Gary wasn't the father of that child. Yet, several years later after the divorce, Gary is in a much better place.
Hugs and kind wishes,
Penny, the pawsitive host of the Alphabark Challenge, 2014! xx
Substitute the Rabbi for a priest, and it sounds like my previous marriage :)
ReplyDeleteSad little tale. However, we clock up 42 years this year.
ReplyDeleteYep....I agree....
ReplyDeleteRegardless of the outcome of the marriage, etc., I LOVE that portrait!
ReplyDeleteLife. Feh.
ReplyDeleteThis bit reminds me of a line I have scribbled in my small notepad I keep on hand for random thoughts:
ReplyDelete"Always a bride, never a pallbearer"
I don't know why I just shared that with you... Heh.
The Rabbi was smart enough to see in the future. Life is never what we think it will be, but what we make it.
ReplyDeleteMy Zen Moment: Things usually happen for a reason (well, duh) and when things happen, they usually (not always. I'm optimistic, not insane) turn out fine. BTW, you take one beautiful picture.
ReplyDeleteyou never know what or when it will show up. The cat take a break? Pffft lol
ReplyDeleteThank you, my witty and wise followers. I appreciate your meaningful comments.
ReplyDeletePenny, your human had quite the shocker. I'm glad he's in a much better place, because we all love him.
Jo, that's incredible. Congratulations.
Aw, thank you MsA and Al for the compliments. Feel free to toss them my way anytime. Smiles.
Herman, you're so random, I love it! Accurate too. Come to think of it, I've been a bride but never a pallbearer.
Good point, David.
Pat, silly me to suggest breaks for the cat. She wouldn't break to eat a rat. Pee breaks, I hope that you all take. If only for your noses' sake.
xoRobyn
A lovely photo Robyn.
ReplyDeleteMakes me sad knowing how things turned out.
You will find it...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BMG6N-EhvpY
Oh Robyn... I am beginning to think we only get that happily ever after when we are truly happy with ourselves. It doesn't have anything to do with single, married, divorced... it is all within. When we love ourselves, we are happy in each one of those places. I am working toward getting there... I am so happy you arrived!
ReplyDeleteAwww, this was sweet. You made my black heart feel feelings. It's true, though. We make our own happily ever afters.
ReplyDeleteI'm currently working on mine. To me, having an awesome wife is just the icing on the cake, but there's a whole lotta other aspects of life that need nurturing before it can truly be considered happily ever after.
=( Marriage is one of those things that gets better as it becomes more cohesive, and I think it's something our society has forgotten to teach: that marriage is not a selfish institution. It's one of giving and putting your partner's needs above your own. It can be difficult if only one member is doing that.
ReplyDeleteVery very beautiful. Yes sometimes our happily ever after takes years to materialize...but the wait is always worth it :)
ReplyDeleteIt's important to find your happy. There are times I'd like to hit my hubby over the head with an old cast iron skillet, but other times I couldn't imagine him not being here.
ReplyDeleteYou were a beautiful bride, Robyn. The most important thing - you realized your happily ever after needed to be found without him rather than together.
ReplyDeleteaww well glad you found it Robyn, although happiness can be an elusive concept, there it goes again...
ReplyDeleteAlls well that ends well. Plans never work.
ReplyDeleteSometimes the road is way too long. I'm sorry you had to go through what you did, but I'm glad you're happy now. :)
ReplyDeleteLovely wedding photo, and you are still beautiful inside and out, Robyn! You have worked hard to find your own happiness which speaks volumes about your strength and determination.
ReplyDeleteJulie
That's a lovely photo of you, Robyn. I think for many people, we can't find happiness with others until we first find it in ourselves. Wishing you a wonderful day!
ReplyDeleteSometimes we take the wrong path and it takes us a while to get to where we're supposed to be.
ReplyDeleteI suspect the rabbi just made a lucky guess, but is it not written that the pious shall be lucky? Well, maybe it isn't written, but I'm still happy for you Robyn.
ReplyDeleteThere's a lot to be said for living your own life, Robyn.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a good thing to make people believe in 'happy ever after', it raises too many expectations.
Marriage is really hard work.
Hi Robyn! Thanks for following me at Waiter, Drink Please. I'm so happy to meet you and read your fabulous writing. I'm glad you found me through the other Robin's blog. :) I love this story... VERY touching and thought-provoking. I'm right in the middle of building for our "Spring Scream" event, otherwise I'd be right here in the A-Z with you!
ReplyDeleteI've been with my husband for 17 years (married 10 of them) and I don't buy into that happily ever after shit. We've been together that long because we make the choice every day to stay together. Some days are pure bliss, other days I'd like to find out how much damage a fry pan can cause on a human skull.
ReplyDeleteWe all need to find our own happy to be happy in other relationships. That's really the only way everyone wins.
You never know when the happy moment will come. I am glad you found yours.
ReplyDeleteHappiness is an inside job. The payoff is no one is responsible for your happiness but you. Cheers!!
ReplyDeleteI love that the "happily ever after" was you all along. That's encouraging.
ReplyDeleteThe Rabbi, like the rest of us, has to believe in the happy ending. This one, unfortunately wasn't your happy ending. Doesn't mean that fairy tales doesn't happen...even in fairy tales, there are upsets and chaos. Personally, I think there are a lot of things in life that are a real crap shoot. Sometime we shoot and SCORE and sometimes we miss.
ReplyDeleteI totally get it. The best thing about my first marriage was getting out of it. Granny used to say that there is nothing deader than dead love. She was so right...
ReplyDeleteI know that quote is attributed to Leona Helmsley, but granny used to say it decades earlier.
Too bad we all don't have a fast forward button. But I do think life always gets better, so it helps just to keep that in mind. Eat chocolate during the wait.
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