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Sunday, January 8, 2017

The Relationship Break, Prelude to My Bar Brawl

   A few lines from Rudyard Kipling's IF come to mind these days: "If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you..."I'm not doing so well in that regard, my dears. I've jumped into cray-cray terrain related to Scorpio. 
   When last we chatted, Scorpio had rattled off a string of strange, unfounded complaints: "You call me a jerk for watching the  news," "It's all about you," "You won't help me clean my trailer." I instantly saw Justin (my ex-husband) in Scorpio. While Justin was ever-intent on fighting, I tenaciously focused on making nice (in other words: I kept trying to fix crazy). Ultimately, we'd both end more upset and frustrated than ever.  
   That night, though, Scorpio apologized. And unlike with Justin, he and I had a nice, sweaty bout of make-up sex. Yet, breakage had begun.
   I loaded several heavy boxes into my car the next morning for Out of the Darkness (suicide prevention event). Meanwhile, Scorpio sat leisurely on my sofa. "I'll be there, don't worry." He stared at his phone. Well, I told myself, this will be the last time we're seen together.
   Scorpio was distant during the event and into the evening. Back at home, we sat on my sofa watching a movie. A weighty silence filled the air. Finally, after unsuccessfully doing things to get attention like taking off my clothes, I yelped, "We're not even snuggling."
   Scorpio unleashed a hot breath. "You're, you're" -- his head abruptly shifted up and down, and Scorpio gritted his teeth -- "You're making me crazy! This isn't a cuddly movie."
    Mind you, it wasn't Schindler's List. But even if it had been, isn't every movie a "cuddly, snuggly" movie in a hot new romance? 

   Furiously hurt, I suggested he "just leave!" Scorpio readily took himself, and his phone, to my dining room table. When tears started to leak, I moved to my bedroom.
   Moments seemed like hours. 
   The man finally stood calmly under my bedroom doorframe. "I need a break, and so do you."
   With that, he turned his back on me. The front door slammed shut.

   That was it!? A break. A brake? What? I'd never been on a relationship "break." Isn't that more for teens, or long term couples trying to decide on separation or divorce? Scorpio would rather abandon me under the guise of "a break" instead of cuddling during a movie?

Oh and what was the movie?
You'll never guess.
Okay, I'll tell you...Social Network. Zuckerberg's story. Yeah, not terribly romantic. And Facebook has become an angry, ugly place, but still! Isn't that all the more reason to hold tightly to a loved one while watching it?  Social Network: what one critic declares is "not a cuddly movie."
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   I hope I'm not boring you with this story, friends. It's prelude to a bar brawl I get into. Really. So I needed to fill in some details before I take you there. 
  Now, I'll say: Stay safe and warm. Keep taking gentle care. The world is a harsh place. The people in it, mostly kind and gentle.
  You are loved and worthy.

55 comments:

  1. O Robyn, I'm sorry. If he'd been more cuddly I bet you would have both forgotten about the movie. The bar brawl sounds scary but if you're quoting Kipling you must have taken it like a soldier. Big hugs.

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  2. Sigh.
    Is it too late to wish that a scorpion stings him on the fundament? Or somewhere more important to him?
    And yes, I know those wishes aren't kind. Call me inconsistent.

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    1. I'd rather call you a good, good friend, EC. And so I shall. Thanks for making me smile and know I'm loved. =)

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  3. Looking forward to the bar brawl. Hope you kicked the ___ out of Scorpio.

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    1. Haha. Thank you, Mitchell. It sure is good to have friends.

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  4. ANY movie is snuggle worthy!! Seriously, My hubs and i just watched the whole Harry Potter series from Thanksgiving to Christmas and a whole lot of snuggling occurred. He doesnt deserve you! Good riddance Scorpio. I'm very interested to hear about the bar brawl. My dibs are on you- small but mighty!!

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    1. When push comes to shove, literally or figuratively, Holli, well, you'd win the bet. And I agree about any and every movie. Thank you.

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  5. Yes, this has wet my whistle for the bar brawl!

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    1. Given your whistle is wet, I better get to it pronto. Either that, or Rare One and you better get to it pronto. Wink.

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  6. Sorry it had to end that way. I agree, all movies should involve snuggling.

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  7. Can't fix crazy indeed. He really sounds like he has some personality disorder. Happy one minute, moron the next. Any movie is a good excuse to cuddle up, dumb move indeed.

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    1. I know - it was/is truly baffling. That moment when my brain can only register: "This person has serious brain problems."

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  8. ditto what Pat above said. As for the bar brawl...hope you kept it classy.Oh my...lots of crazy out there. Take care

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    1. Thanks, Joanne. A "classy" bar brawl - we'll see about that. ;-)

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  9. Wow.....honestly it sounds like you're better off even though it hurts like hell. Looking forward to the bar brawl story! And you are right about Facebook...it's getting to be a real drag.

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    1. Lots of problems with FB these days, JoJo. As with every money driven venture, its fraught with evil on many level. And yet it's likely our best means of communication. Bummer.

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  10. He sounds like he has issues. Serious issues. Let that door stay closed. No snuggles there anyway.

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    1. So serious, Diane, they fall into WTH is wrong with you? Smiles. Yep, the door is bolted shut.

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  11. You're such a tease, and I always like that. A bar brawl?

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    1. If I were to make something up about myself that seemed so completely out of character, I might've thought of a bar brawl. Yet I didn't need to make it up. Stay tuned in to this tease. Wink.

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  12. If a woman ever took off her clothes to cuddle during a movie I would be putty in her hands. It would not matter what the movie was because I would absolutely not be watching it.

    Say good bye and move on.

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    1. Thing is, Young Frankenstein worked much better for us, Jono. Young Frankenstein and aphrodisiac? Odd, very odd.

      I'll be back, Fishducky. I promise. I've too much to tell you all. None of it's pretty.

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  13. **sigh*** I continue to pray that you find a man that cherishes you and won't treat you like dog doo. His ongoing lack of interest (well...not including his phone) was a red flag. That crack about what's for supper and referring to you cleaning his trailer gave me the creeps. I remain hopeful that a caring,loving person is in your future.

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    1. Somewhere on the spectrum between cherishing me and treating me like dog doo would be a welcomed change. No, actually, and I always come back to this: I'm much better off alone.
      Thank you, friend. Thank you.

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  14. So it's not a cuddly movie but it IS a take off your clothes movie? Boy, now I see why I rarely got any. I don't get the movie thing at all.

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    1. I'm laughing. I rarely watch movies, Chris. I only own a few - Young Frankenstein, Social Network, and that's about it. Neither is particularly cuddly nor take-off-your-clothes worthy. It's all about who you're with.

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  15. What a title, and you nailed the follow through. To be fair to Scorpio, Zuckerberg is portrayed as such a creep in that movie that I wouldn't consider it a cuddle movie either. But it doesn't deserve a blow-up. Sorry to hear about your relationship troubles. My thoughts are with you. The death of any relationship is a thing to mourn. Good luck to you.

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    1. Thank you, PVP. It really, really hurt. I suppose I'm still hurt but more focused on other excitement that I'll be writing about.

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  16. Perhaps you started too hot not to cool down? Sorry.

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    1. Maybe - ah, the price of hotness. Just kidding, but I like the theory, Shosh. Thank you!

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  17. The jerk o meter is on the red alert side. He does not want any responsibility in a relationship. He also never put any effort into much except when it gratified him. This makes me angry because you deserve much, much better. When my hubby and I first got together we snuggled while watching an action flick! Now we ea h sit in our own spot and watch but we still will touch the other on occasion and smile at one another and we have been together for over 10 years. This guy reminds me of my first husband who is a nice guy but can't take the effort in a relationship because it means work and he is lazy...in everything. He would then put subtle blame on me so, again, he did not have to take any responsibility. I feel bad for you because you deserve a man who puts an effort into a relationship, is there for you and you both love hot, fun sex. You will find this for sure....just stop looking and have fun:)

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    1. I did a clap-laugh combination when I read your first sentence, Birgit. The entire comment is a work of art. I need to print it up and re-read many times. Thank you, fun and wise lady. Much gratitude.

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  18. Scorpio has always been my least favorite constellation (I'm more of an Orion kind of guy who hangs out in winter and loves to cuddle cause it's cold, but then Orion didn't make it into the Zodiac). Anyway, sorry for your loss but it might be for the best. Hang in there.

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    1. Orion: the stud of the skies.
      It was for the best. Thanks, Sage.

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  19. Sending you hugs, Robyn. Any and every movie is a cuddly one for sure, especially when in a new romance. Scorpio needs to scuttle back under the rock from which he came. He's such a fool. His loss, for sure, and your gain. I'm a little nervous to hear about a bar brawl, but I'll stay tuned.

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    1. Thanks so much for your kindness, Connie. I appreciate it.

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  20. He sounds a little...unbalanced. I'm so sorry, Robyn. You deserve a lot better than this!

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    1. That's a delicate way to put it, very kind. Thank you, Martha. =)

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  21. wishing you a very happy new year with lots of joys and peace dear friend!

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  22. Sorry to hear about your troubles. Step forward into a better 2017!

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  23. My favorite movie to cuddle to is Gremlins 2 or Flubber.

    What's up?!?

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  24. Sounds like kind of a jerk you're better off rid of. Or should that be "of which you're better rid off"? Okay, my head hurts now.

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    1. I have no idea what the uppity types would say you're supposed to say, and I don't care, Al. I'm just glad to see ya. Thanks.

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  25. Aw. It's been a long time since I've had that scenario but I can still remember that it stings. Sending you my virtual hug.

    And yeah, Social Network is not for cuddling.

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    1. Sure it is, Lux. When you're in love or lust, every movie is for cuddling and more.
      Thanks for the virtual hug.

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  26. I'm sorry to hear that Robyn. It seems the writing was on the wall long before this though.
    You are better off. Are you attracted to a particular type? It sounds terribly familiar.
    I'm still hoping one day you will end up in a better situation and get a kick ass book out of it.
    We still love ya!

    xo

    btw hands on legs, hand holding, appropriate for any movie. imo

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    1. It does sound familiar, and it was, Anthony. I'm simply attracted to nice ones. Problem is, they always seem nice at first. This one was cute too - we had a strong chemistry. Sigh.

      Love ya too.

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  28. Oh Robyn, I'm sorry. :( I hope that it all works out as it should and your heart doesn't take too much of a beating. Bar brawl? Can't wait.

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  29. Oh good gravy. He's nuts! Certifiably insane. I'm sorry, Robyn. And, just for the record, after 2 years of dating and 4 years of marriage, every movie is a cuddling/snuggling movie for us.

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